Apiece Apart Woman: Alexandra Elle


“Today I affirm: When life is tough, I will stay soft.”
“Today I affirm: I have the courage to restart and the patience to work for it while I wait for it.”
Alexandra Elle is an author and storyteller whose work centers around helping women dive deep within, finding new ways to care for themselves, build community, and explore one’s voice through language. Mother of two and an honest voice about radicalizing wellness, we were excited to spend the afternoon with her at home this spring. Below, a conversation on turning inward, speaking up, and standing in your own power.
Photos by Erika Layne

Apiece Apart Woman Alexandra Elle

What does it mean to exist – and have much of your work exist – in the digital realm? How and where do you find the balance between the work that you do online, and offline?
To exist, for me, means to move through the world in a way that is intentional. My online platform is used to connect and create community with those who read my books, attend my workshops, and want to learn more about how intentional living can assist them in rooting deeply into self-care, self-love, and self-worth. While navigating online spaces, I find balance by logging off and doing the work offline. There has to be steadiness in life, especially when using the Internet. If there isn’t things can become murky and distracting.

What has been a non-obvious turning point for you, either personally or professionally?
Realizing that my self-care isn’t always easy and will most likely never be. I think people believe that because I advocate and teach self-care that it’s a breeze. That’s not always the case. Some days it’s difficult, but that’s where the true test comes into play. On those days, I have to be more mindful, intentional, and radical about my self-care practice and choices.  

Apiece Apart Woman Alexandra Elle

What themes or questions have been most emergent for you of late?
How can I deepen the practice of turning inward, silencing the noise, and adjusting how I move through the world come up for me a lot. All of those things have to do with focus and introspection. I work on them both, daily. 

How do you show up for yourself? 
By taking steps back when I need space. I have learned over the years, especially while navigating being a wife and mother, that I cannot pour into anyone if I am empty. I keep that at the forefront when moving through the relationship that I have with myself. 

Apiece Apart Woman Alexandra Elle

Can you speak to the theme of agency? How has choice redefined your perspective on life?
Knowing that I have a choice and a say over my life — it keeps me grateful, open to change, and humble.
 
In what ways have you become the woman you've always wanted to be? How has your idea of that woman changed over time?
I am a woman that stands in her power! And I am proud of that evolution. My ideas of womanhood change often, they aren’t linear. As women we are always shifting and taking on new shapes. With that said, I stand tall in that truth—and in all of the other parts of my womanhood that make me who I am today.

Apiece Apart Woman Alexandra Elle


What do you wish more people were talking about?
Not always getting it right and removing the shame. 
 
What books are on your nightstand? 
"I’ve Been Thinking" by Maria Shriver
"The Sounds of Cherry Blossoms" by Martin Hakubai Mosko
"Things That Join the Sky and Sea" by Mark Nepo
"Mom & Me & Mom" by Maya Angelou

Apiece Apart Woman Alexandra Elle